A few weeks ago my daughter, Zoe, asked if she could dye her hair blue. She wanted to try something different, something distinctive, something stylish.
As you might imagine, this resulted in much discussion between her mother and father. Working to her benefit was the fact that she actually asked permission, as opposed to attempting it on her own. The idea of blue hair seems consistent with her passion for fashion. She spends a lot of time looking at designs, fabrics and colors. She is taking a summer school class in fashion design at New York's Fashion Institute of Technology.
Like many teenagers, Zoe is trying to discover her identity. She will be a junior in a prestigious private school, which is very competitive and academically demanding. Last year was very challenging for her, but she ended the term with a B average. She also greatly matured and gained in confidence.
While the idea of her having blue hair didn't sit well with me, my reasons for her not to do it seemed trivial. What would other parents think? Would she be accepted among her peers? And I found out that there is no school regulation against it. So, in the end, we agreed to go along provided that we have it done by a professional.
I am not sure that Zoe had any idea of how complicated and time consuming the dye job would be. Swaths of her hair were wrapped in foil.
There are only four weeks remaining before the new school year begins. It will be interesting to see how the blue hair plays among her classmates. My guess is it will be will be no big deal.
Zoe is grateful we gave her the opportunity to experiment. She also knows that her parents treated her with respect, value her opinions and are not unreasonable. I think the parent-kid bond got a little tighter.